tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post9011337193714440237..comments2024-01-17T01:57:39.528+00:00Comments on lacochran's bloggery: "Somewhere I belong" --Linkin Parklacochranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12122022168616822147noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-17144395534198165952009-11-23T13:02:13.203+00:002009-11-23T13:02:13.203+00:00i know what you are feeling here, totally been the...i know what you are feeling here, totally been there. i tend to err on the side of caution as well.<br /><br />i don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with that though.alexa @clevelandsaplumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17455541282046721762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-56800790790523206022009-11-22T21:34:44.943+00:002009-11-22T21:34:44.943+00:00OK, two things:
The last few orgies I figured I w...OK, two things:<br /><br />The last few orgies I figured I wasn't invited, but all the ones before that I'm pretty sure I was.<br /><br />I am an only child and blog every day. What does that say about me? hmmmmMayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06163354395585207840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-42435307505828236112009-11-22T19:53:19.583+00:002009-11-22T19:53:19.583+00:00I suspected that you were one of the younger sibli...I suspected that you were one of the younger siblings in your family. The birth order book that I read suggests that younger kids in the family are funnier. Maybe one day they'll discover a link between birth order and a propensity to blog.Bowie Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09656054601003840365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-36901040188965016192009-11-22T18:53:56.680+00:002009-11-22T18:53:56.680+00:00What's Omega?What's Omega?Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542230897888388433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-68806831671750388022009-11-22T14:48:18.417+00:002009-11-22T14:48:18.417+00:00Cyndy: Proximity and reinforcement, mmkay.
Alex:...Cyndy: Proximity and reinforcement, mmkay.<br /><br />Alex: It's possible she started the evening with just her guitar and everyone that wandered down to the lake and sat to listen was as much a stranger as I was. No idea. If that was the case, then we're all on equal footing and my hanging back was construable as rude. "Most reasonable people"? Really? That's the way you want to support your point?<br /><br />Mike: Send me a list, in case they're out of your top item.<br /><br />Liebchen: You're always included here.<br /><br />The Bug: You are! And, yes!<br /><br />Little Ms Blogger: Understandable.<br /><br />Tina: Not even a little? *nudge*nudge*<br /><br />kansasmediocrity: Congratulations! 11 years is something to be proud of.<br /><br />Bowie Mike: You have an open invitation to comment here. Yes, you do. Yes, you do. (I was beginning to wonder if you'd bailed on me. Thanks for coming through!) I was a younger child, too. Hmmm, maybe there is a connection.<br /><br />Barbara: Same here. I didn't want to be on their stinky team anyway. *pout*lacochranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12122022168616822147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-61334533554612674932009-11-22T05:11:32.607+00:002009-11-22T05:11:32.607+00:00I'm exactly like you, as I sit there preparing...I'm exactly like you, as I sit there preparing to be left out. Maybe it's a holdover from childhood when I wasn't one of the first to be chosen for anyone's team.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18356998698106275372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-14448237438319403522009-11-22T03:22:21.494+00:002009-11-22T03:22:21.494+00:00Geez, the day is almost over, and I haven't co...Geez, the day is almost over, and I haven't commented yet. I was sort of hoping for a personal invitation to comment.<br /><br />In the situation that you described, I wouldn't have thought that I was invited for the group hug. But I'm guessing that isn't the best example of what you're talking about.<br /><br />I have at times required some personal prodding after a group invite - even when I wanted to participate. I'm not exactly sure why, but it may have something to do with being one of the younger kids in a large family, and there were a lot of things that included the older kids only, and the younger kids were automatically excluded. This is sort of like <i>Deep thoughts with Jack Handy</i>!<br /><br />I also used to automatically say "no thank you" when asked if I would like something to eat when visiting someone's house - even if I was hungry. Not sure why.Bowie Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09656054601003840365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-11249869228396580662009-11-21T23:46:18.143+00:002009-11-21T23:46:18.143+00:00Although I've been sober 11 years, I still hav...Although I've been sober 11 years, I still have a hard time with self-esteem.<br />I just got used to being left out for obvious reasons.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-42829818528591960532009-11-21T21:05:38.842+00:002009-11-21T21:05:38.842+00:00depends on wheter I know the issuer, the group and...depends on wheter I know the issuer, the group and how involved I have been in whatever is going on up to that point.<br /><br />And I NO am not thinking of the orgy comment - really - not...Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028778070561332377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-39676548442721673992009-11-21T21:04:26.853+00:002009-11-21T21:04:26.853+00:00Really depends on the situation.
I know that is...Really depends on the situation. <br /><br />I know that is a lame ass answer, but if the situation you cited happened to me, I'd shy away. However, if I had been there for a fair amount of time and talked with some people in between songs then yes, I would have joined in.<br /><br />I have a tendency to be shy around new people.Little Ms Bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208746635976950728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-7144376134047904062009-11-21T18:59:14.871+00:002009-11-21T18:59:14.871+00:00I usually assume I AM included. I'm there, are...I usually assume I AM included. I'm there, aren't I? Heh. I do look for nonverbal cues to get a sense of whether or not I'm right, but unless they're pretty blatant (everyone turns their back to me & walks away) I usually join in. Odd behavior for an introvert, don't you think?The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-13667344842003711812009-11-21T18:32:36.774+00:002009-11-21T18:32:36.774+00:00I never assume I'm included. However, I've...I never assume I'm included. However, I've realized recently that it drives some people crazy when they have re-issue invitations.Liebchenhttp://liebchen11.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-32131782172690949002009-11-21T18:04:59.197+00:002009-11-21T18:04:59.197+00:00I would be of the not included inclination because...I would be of the not included inclination because there's no telling what a group of people will do next and I don't like suprises.<br /><br />You're on your way to making it though the whole month. Only (22,23,24,25,26,27,28,29,30) 9 more days to go. Of course this all ends with a big bang on my birthday. I'll send you what I want you to get me for my birthday. (remember I don't like surprises)Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00017192454403363349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-89173391675905427332009-11-21T16:55:54.822+00:002009-11-21T16:55:54.822+00:00If it was a group of strangers that all knew each ...If it was a group of strangers that all knew each other that I'd just happened upon, I'd also assume I wasn't included... I think most reasonable people would. It was nice of that guy to recognize that you would see it that way, and reach out to you.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14561615147518117185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-26469542983983217482009-11-21T15:36:47.940+00:002009-11-21T15:36:47.940+00:00I would also tend to not assume that I would be in...I would also tend to not assume that I would be included in a situation like that, and probably also in general. But it can also depend on my physical proximity to the person who tossed out the invitation or on whether the people near me think they are also invited.Cyndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787927933858782267noreply@blogger.com