tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post7833295782839064605..comments2024-01-17T01:57:39.528+00:00Comments on lacochran's bloggery: "Hey nineteen, No, we can't dance together, No, we can't talk at all" --Steely Danlacochranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12122022168616822147noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-72181873040599082722009-09-26T22:34:41.554+01:002009-09-26T22:34:41.554+01:00I would definitely try to mix if they were 15 year...I would definitely try to mix if they were 15 years older. I always have acted more mature than my age and enjoy people who I can relate to. 15 years younger and I definitely would not mingle but then again, the room would be full of 10 year olds!<br /><br />Age is just a number in reality and I try really hard not to judge just based on age.Jhttp://shescountry.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-2413825383429550542009-09-24T19:04:56.067+01:002009-09-24T19:04:56.067+01:00For some reason, I feel more comfortable around pe...For some reason, I feel more comfortable around peers or older folks than younger ones, but I think maybe I worry the younger ones don't care much to reach out to older folks much. Or maybe it was just that the most recent attempt had gone bad. <br /><br />I try to mingle, regardless though, and just obsess later in private about how old I am. ;)spleenesshttp://www.spleeness.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-36096054390531875222009-09-23T04:52:53.338+01:002009-09-23T04:52:53.338+01:00Interesting question...
I'll go ahead and byp...Interesting question...<br /><br />I'll go ahead and bypass the beauty pageant/running-for-class-president answer and give my honest-to-God one. <br /><br />Assuming I know virtually no one in either scenario, this is who I initially seek out/engage in conversation:<br /><br />If I'm 15 year younger, I find the folks at the party who are laughing the most and hardest. If you've spent half a century on this planet without losing your sense of humor, then chances are we'll get along just fine.<br /><br />If I'm 15 years older, I avoid the loud ones and look for the smirkers and quiet conversationalists. The 2 or 3 who seem to be in on some inside joke that the yellers and screechers are oblivious to. And if that doesn't work, I just find a random group of dudes and talk about guns, football or cars. Seriously.Hammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834538866855172575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-58799790784914544062009-09-22T21:47:25.966+01:002009-09-22T21:47:25.966+01:00I have a little social anxiety at most parties, bu...I have a little social anxiety at most parties, but once I got past that I don't think I'd care how old anyone is. I've always tended to gravitate toward people older than myself so that's not an issue. And it's fun to talk to people younger than I am, provided they're fun and interesting to begin with (that goes for any age group, really). I don't know -- I just think you should be open to anything. You never know who you might meet or what you might learn. Not to mention, people often think I'm much younger than I am and make judgments accordingly, so you shouldn't assume one look at someone tells you everything you need/want to know.Katehttp://punchitin.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-70454194981916027042009-09-22T16:40:33.610+01:002009-09-22T16:40:33.610+01:00it's weird, usually my friends end up being ol...it's weird, usually my friends end up being older than me but i also always assume everyone's my age unless it's painfully apparent they're not. i'd certainly feel more intimidated with an all older crowd if i knew... perceptions are tricky.mylittlebeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09610700094326989044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-17545798132017872102009-09-22T15:27:23.783+01:002009-09-22T15:27:23.783+01:0027 comments in less than 24 hours? Huh. Glad I p...27 comments in less than 24 hours? Huh. Glad I picked something to write about you all could relate to. Thanks for weighing in.<br /><br />Hannah: Hard to get a turn at the Wii.<br /><br />justjp: An equal opportunity bagger.<br /><br />The Bug: 2-year-olds think it's all about them. When, clearly, it's all about us.<br /><br />liferehab: Just prudent.<br /><br />J: Right back atcha! Trivia night is calling our names!<br /><br />Kate: You say pedophile, I saw cougar.<br /><br />Tina: You raise a good point. It's hard to get "up" for meeting a lot of new people.<br /><br />J: Covey would call that choosing to be a transition figure rather than a transmission figure. I call that cool.<br /><br />Anonymous: We're all brothers in the larger sense, doncha think?<br /><br />f.B: You raise a good point. It is about reception, yes.lacochranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12122022168616822147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-10668567790095245872009-09-22T03:18:13.102+01:002009-09-22T03:18:13.102+01:00It's a good question. But some of my best fri...It's a good question. But some of my best friends are 20 years younger than I am; and some of them are at least 15 years older. So I'd probably be rather bored if everyone was my age. I actually don't think about age differences much except when I am talking to my adult children. They somehow remind me that I'm old!<br /><br />(BTW, I'm sure it wasn't my husband who pronounced the girls in the kitchen too young. :))Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18356998698106275372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-32385831764611928312009-09-22T01:20:46.494+01:002009-09-22T01:20:46.494+01:00I've always socialized with a wide range of ag...I've always socialized with a wide range of ages relative to my own and I appreciate the different types of experiences and attitudes that different age groups often have. So it's never been an issue for me, although I have definitely felt an ageism attitude aimed towards me from both older people and younger.<br /><br />What was really weird was when younger people would act like I was even younger than they were because they couldn't tell by looking that I was actually older. Sadly that happens less and less often these days.Cyndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11787927933858782267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-30259525085503714932009-09-22T00:29:23.327+01:002009-09-22T00:29:23.327+01:00If I walk in the room and people look up and smile...If I walk in the room and people look up and smile warmly, I meet and greet and laugh...<br /><br />But if I walk in and people seem to be finding every reason not to make eye contact, I just find the first smile and talk to that person.<br /><br />(By the way: we felt very welcome.)f.Bhttp://francobeans.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-58118581725390881372009-09-21T23:20:34.452+01:002009-09-21T23:20:34.452+01:00Was he my brother?Was he my brother?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-1548775305420461952009-09-21T22:29:24.516+01:002009-09-21T22:29:24.516+01:00I agree with you- that guy was an ass. To write of...I agree with you- that guy was an ass. To write off anyone based on something like age is just stupid.<br /><br />Whether it's at parties or in the casts of the productions I stage manage- I'm going to run into people that aren't my age and I'm more than ok with that.Dmbosstonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05631276118039762167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-52460740561814767382009-09-21T21:15:05.347+01:002009-09-21T21:15:05.347+01:00I never see age in a person, so I wouldn't hav...I never see age in a person, so I wouldn't have a problem just jumping in feet first and mingling with everyone, no matter their age. <br /><br />Although, I never see age in others, it seems they always see it in me. I am 29 but look like I am closer to 18. I get carded for everything possible and in the working world people don't seem to take me too seriously. It gets on my nerves so I am sure to not treat people based on the age I think they are but on the age they act.Janelle...https://www.blogger.com/profile/02831385569349192229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-6549775230446559932009-09-21T21:07:40.444+01:002009-09-21T21:07:40.444+01:00I really don't care about age much. Some of m...I really don't care about age much. Some of my friends are a good bit older and I married 10 years younger so obviously I have been known to a-hem "mingle" with the younger crowd. I'm more comfortable at a gathering where there is a good mix of people I know and like already and new people to meet than one where everyone is new to me. In that case I have to be really really motivated to meet new folks or I just retreat and people watch.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028778070561332377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-80787844559330931102009-09-21T20:42:08.494+01:002009-09-21T20:42:08.494+01:00I can do both, usually. But if it's significan...I can do both, usually. But if it's significantly younger - I wouldn't stay long. There's have to be at least a handful of us oldies around - otherwise, I feel like a pedophile or something.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01542230897888388433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-33372643924414350282009-09-21T19:31:39.659+01:002009-09-21T19:31:39.659+01:00I don't think age matters, it's what kind ...I don't think age matters, it's what kind of party it is, and what kind of party you're in the mood for (or are into).<br /><br />My group of friends has a 30+ year age span. I've had gatherings with people ranging from 21 to 50 in the same room.<br /><br />I've been to parties with people mostly in their early 20's and been bored because it was keg-stand idiocy. I've been to parties with people my age or even younger, and been bored because it was too uptight.<br /><br />It's just who you are and where you are, not how old you are.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04089108417465569092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-43136757768305506142009-09-21T19:14:41.396+01:002009-09-21T19:14:41.396+01:00What comes to mind is family gatherings. Sure, it...What comes to mind is family gatherings. Sure, it's easy to share stories with my sisters or cousins closer to me in age. But, really, you need to get along with everyone in the family and the stories from Aunts, Uncles, nieces, nephews, parents and Grandparents are just as rich as those from your generation. So, I'd mingle at the party.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-7347153164431235562009-09-21T18:59:20.164+01:002009-09-21T18:59:20.164+01:00I'm like Lemmonex. I have friends various age...I'm like Lemmonex. I have friends various ages and don't believe age defines a person.<br /><br />I admit I can't rebound as quickly as a 21 year old, but I also know I don't have to keep up.<br /><br />As long as person is intelligent, interesting and funny, who cares.Little Ms Bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17208746635976950728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-90017877111783456122009-09-21T18:51:58.535+01:002009-09-21T18:51:58.535+01:00I'm definitely pro-mingling, especially consid...I'm definitely pro-mingling, especially considering that I've always tended to hang out with people older than myself.<br /><br />And you make a really good point in this post that the blogging connections are made really based on everything but looks. Which is refreshing.Liebchenhttp://liebchen11.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-320155093128645552009-09-21T18:39:39.765+01:002009-09-21T18:39:39.765+01:00I remember that, actually. I was all, "What? ...I remember that, actually. I was all, "What? We're here for a reason, buddy... because we WANT to be." Which should perhaps have clued him in on the fact that we weren't some toddlers looking to do Jagerbombs or kegstands, but interesting and intelligent people who were interested in having a good time with good people.<br /><br />Every time I plan a get together, I tend to judge its success in my head by how many connections were made, especially across "lines" like age. When everybody's different AND everybody's mingling, I call that a helluva good time.rachaelgkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18002691394373545956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-88898387210066746202009-09-21T18:33:18.560+01:002009-09-21T18:33:18.560+01:00I was at a party this weekend like this. It was a ...I was at a party this weekend like this. It was a 30th Anniversary party for some family friends. Mostly I mingled with the few people my age, but mostly because a) I didn't really have any great introductions and wasn't feeling super social that night, and b) I don't think most of them I had a ton in common with. I don't think it had much to do with their ages... at least not consciously. I know several people in that age group and circle of friends that I like, but this was more about not being super into meeting new people.<br /><br />You and your better half (sshhh) are great, so I do hope you guys can come out for trivia sometime. Of course, that requires *me* being able to go out for trivia sometime... I remember the first time we all met, and I remember thinking how nice you guys are, and what good stories you have :) Actually, I think that was the first time and every one after!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07483390216311858204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-6543691858032392552009-09-21T18:31:47.657+01:002009-09-21T18:31:47.657+01:00On the other side, I really, really like get-toget...On the other side, I really, really like get-togethers where the age spectrum is very wide, I take that as a signal (a good one) about the hosts and their guests and makes me want to meet them allTitaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01545746060811982263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-32114800237106699892009-09-21T18:30:01.160+01:002009-09-21T18:30:01.160+01:00I guess it will depend on the situation and in whi...I guess it will depend on the situation and in which way I am related to these people, what things we have in common. I do feel a bit uneasy when I am the oldest in the crowd and not as much when I am on the younger side though...Titaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01545746060811982263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-26596275730000127372009-09-21T18:09:27.593+01:002009-09-21T18:09:27.593+01:00That guy sitting in the corner? That's me, tak...That guy sitting in the corner? That's me, taking pictures, wondering how much money I can get for them.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00017192454403363349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-7475709263317352962009-09-21T18:07:15.810+01:002009-09-21T18:07:15.810+01:00This is interesting, actually. I have a group of ...This is interesting, actually. I have a group of friends that are younger than me and a group that is ten years older than me. I think I can fit in to both groups well since I still have a bit of a wild and rebellious streak but under it all I know what I want and I have worked hard for it.<br /><br />Also, growing up with a father as a bartender--and hanging out at bars after school--makes me totally comfortable chatting with someone who is older than me. It really isn't a big deal.Lemmonexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323066264528575027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29952376.post-45369730076874810712009-09-21T18:01:29.587+01:002009-09-21T18:01:29.587+01:00Lets see, if they were 15 years younger, they'...Lets see, if they were 15 years younger, they'd be 6, in which case, I'd be all about starting a game of duck duck goose or hitting a pinata. I hate little kids, but I love their games. If they were 15 years older, they'd be 36, and I'd be all about talking work/drinking wine/ whatever else they wanted to do. I like older people, they're better than people my own age. So I'd mix. Now, if I was at a party with people my own age... I'd get drunk so I didn't remember whatever stupid conversations we had.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com